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as a result, once the mother returns to work after leave to care for a child (and sometimes it ends very quickly), children often communicate with grandmothers, grandfathers, teachers in kindergarten, babysit, least of all with his own mother and father.

If the child is small, he often sees them only on weekends, because away from home they used to, and come back later.

Isolation is an amazing opportunity to communicate with a child all day for the past month. But oddly, that’s what it is for many people an ordeal. Locked in the apartment, the children start to act up, do not fulfill parental guidance, require what is now impossible. How to cope with these circumstances? How to captivate and entertain baby, what classes are interesting to him?

these questions will help you understand a certified teacher of Alexander Podolsky, part-time, mother of two sons, 8 and 5 years. Alexander graduated from the Moscow state pedagogical University, and is currently involved in the education of boys, and the eldest son, besides getting an education in family education. So that the conditions of isolation have not changed for the usual family day schedule and classes, except that the deprived children the favorite interest groups and walks. Alexander Podolsky shares his professional and life experience with the readers of “RG”.

Alexander, according to your observations, what happens to the psyche of children, when life is limited by the walls of the apartment?

Alexander Podolsky: I think mentally healthy children living in healthy atmosphere in the family, for a month of quarantine significant changes should not happen. Because the healthy psyche is able to adapt to non-standard conditions. If there was initially some background and characteristics, then any problem in isolation is able to Express themselves clearly.

How can we overcome or mitigate these difficulties?

Alexander Podolsky: I Suppose that complexity can be divided into two types: common for all individuals associated with the need to respect the quarantine and domestic difficulties that were to isolation, and every family they own. In the same way as developed over the years forms of adaptation to stress.

I like everything are so long valuenot a normal life for the first time. But parenting is a way of taming one’s ego and with something like women sometimes faced in early motherhood. And this, in my opinion, is still more difficult to quarantine the length of per month when you can at least a full night’s sleep. To overcome this difficulty fully is impossible, but the first thing that comes to mind – often have to hug each other in p��Yam and figuratively. Families do not find themselves in total isolation from the world, they are simply removed from the big society in microsocium. Moreover, quarantine is not a vacation: the kids still have responsibilities at the school, and the parents are at work and at home, so we all are busy during the day. The output harder when you don’t have the ability to change the situation. But then come to the aid services, digital technologies that connect us with friends, help get the emotions, albeit in a somewhat unusual way.

Kids are bored on the usual day you walk?

Alexander Podolsky: I always say to them: “Boring boring man.” DIY your life boring, it’s possible. Psychology teaches to find the source of their problems within themselves and to take responsibility for themselves. Control what you can control and ask for help when you feel like something to handle.

the Second thing that comes to mind: it is important to be able to retire. Even in a small apartment – check for yourself – it’s possible. And the child need to be alone with him too. Learn to understand their needs and to respect other people’s: why not use the quarantine period, to practice this? In General, how we perceive something as a problem, affects formed within us the mechanism of adaptation.

What do you take children during the day, what classes they like more and which – less?

Alexander Podolsky: Watching children from a very early age, we know their aspirations, and therefore help realized that what they show interest. And now they are enthusiastically engaged in the same things in life: draw, sing, do sport exercises, leaf through your favorite books, play with favorite toys. Here everyone chooses for himself the benefit of the variety of activities now large. I’m not against computer games in which you need to get enough of it in childhood. I also always ready with a box in which lay a new games – from puzzles to, for example, in the manufacture of soap. I buy them most often on sales, and then they lie and wait in the wings.

How do you alternate sessions, how often they take breaks, so that children are not tired?

Alexander Podolsky: Now the ordinary morning is a time of concentrated study. As for Junior, he determines when tired and when to take a break for a game, tough there are no restrictions. At his age, while operating the game.

the Eldest son is studying longer, because we are limited by school curricula – at the end of the school year, he is certified in all school subjects. But do not work on time��e segments, and the result: some of the topics given easily, and what requires a more serious and long consideration. But the break he can do it at any time whenever it is required. Suffice it to say: “Mom, can break?”. Only during class I ask him not to take breaks long, so as to return to the lesson and focus after a long rest harder than after a 10-minute pause. Sometimes adjusting the time helps timer on your phone, it also promotes concentration. But, of course, like all families, we have their victories, and their complexity, with which to work.

And what kids busy outside of school?

Alexander Podolsky: It is their independent choice. When they are playing a game, or their Hobbies, I, too, can do something, for example, to answer your questions. Junior gets tired from the games or the cartoon and asks, “Mom, I want to learn.” This is a very valuable time when it is important to show how much pleasure you can get from the process of learning new. I hold the position that at an early age need to get tired of the monotony of the day to want to move to another level of interaction with the world and begin to him to prepare themselves. But in General, with two children to organize life turned out to be easier than one that, at first, I was very surprised.

Interview with teacher, Alexandra Podolsk “RG” will continue tomorrow, April 29.