Bubber is not immortal. It is, he has become more and more aware of. And he is going to experience a small part of his future child’s life than his already three grown children.
It has been the biggest eye-opener, says the 55-year-old coming spædbarnsfar to B. T.
“Every year counts, and when one becomes a father at a late age, have one less year with the upcoming baby. It’s also good to figure out, but emotionally you just… it is hard to imagine. With my other children I have certainly not in the same way seen how the sand timer counts down,” says Bubber.
He is more aware of his own mortality by talking with other fathers in his own situation. What has he done during the work with the podcast ‘Gammelfar’, Thursday the 2. april had its premiere at Podimo.
Here, he speaks with a number of experts and middle-aged fathers to learn about the joys and fears you get, when you get to be an old father.
It was Bubbers own idea to use his situation in a podcast. It has always been for him to use himself in both radio and tv and have the drive of his own curiosity, because he, by his own admission is so ‘snotordblind’, that it is easiest on the way.
You can’t mention familieforøgelsen without also getting in on the mother of the child.
After 28 years of marriage, told Bubber, in november, that he and the ex-wife Christina ‘Ibsen’ Meyer was gone from each other.
He waited now, a child with the 42-year-old Signe Rossing, who had been a friend of the family for several years and also worked as a nanny for the Bubbers three children that today are adults.
But the part of the story wants Bubber not to talk about. He would rather talk about the podcast. On the legitimacy and the concerns about putting a child into the world as a 55-year-old.
the Concerns confronted he namely with every day. He sees his hair be gray, wrinkles emerge, and the hands are getting old to look at. But in the mind he feels young. He follows with the passage of time. And it is the most important thing, he believes.
“If one keeps oneself informed and know what is happening, then it’s just very, whether you can run a marathon,” he says.
“There are many things you can change to pull themselves together, but just exactly age you can’t do anything about. So you must live intensely and get the best out of each and every day you have on earth. Use the time and life wisely. And I am reminded of now.”
This new focus does not mean, however, that Bubber’s going to be a different father, when he soon gets his laggard.
“I have always been a good and loving father – so I also intend to continue with,” he says.
He actually gets no snarky comments about that it is selfish to put a child into the world now, or that he should be a worse father. People make themselves more merry over, why he bother to start over and change diapers again after so many years.
“I think women need to hear more criticism, when they become pregnant at a late age, because there is a higher risk of complications. There is actually a little unfair and strange that we men just can be by, for we are well over 80.”
Yet he seems, to a podcast about the old fathers are justified.
“I myself become smarter, while I’ve made it, and so can some other probably also be enlightened by it. Many will say that they have even tried, or that they must soon through. There may also be some who will say: ‘I Wish it was me’,” says Bubber, and adds:
“And then there are also those who can hear the podcast and get the law to say: ‘Well, it’s not me’.”
