About what happens to a man when he is in crisis, not whether we have forgotten how to chat live now and how we treat their health, “RG” was told by the specialist Crisis center in Chelyabinsk, psychologist George Solodovnikov.
Pandemic coronavirus dramatically changed our lives. George, what happens to a person in a stressful situation and after it ends?
George Solodovnikov: Personality has many levels to its potential. To be precise, three of them: the biological, social and existential. The last is the level of personal meanings, values, and ideology. When the first and second exhausted their stock comes into play logos – individual meaning of human life, which, overlapping the first two levels, provides the necessary energy to overcome the crises.
From the existential psychologist Viktor Frankl is a well-known book “Say life “Yes”. In it, he in detail tells of his imprisonment in a concentration camp. As a prisoner, Frankl continued to develop the approach, the essence of which is that a strong body, but not with the meaning of life people die. It is the same now: if people do not know, why, for what him to overcome the crisis, it will be hard. However, not all existential sphere is activated. Many are discouraged.
And someone, on the contrary, begins to understand why he should live. When this is all over, people really can change, someone will understand that he always wanted to be a landscaper, not to sit in the office for a nominal salary. One thing I can say: we began to appreciate the work and personal space.
Why this?
George Solodovnikov: People saw that work easy to lose, and it turned out to be dilutes home life. With it you can go home and from home to get back to work – and there is harmony. Not talking about that many who had financial problems due to cuts and plant closures.
During the isolation many are tired from each other. Now, we will probably appreciate being alone?
George Solodovnikov: Yes, people began to enjoy their own space and the opportunity to enjoy the solitude. That is the time when you quietly read a book or write poems, and who knows what. It became less so as people often live by several people in the apartment, and some of the habits and Hobbies have to be abandoned. Not walk, not at home alone.
People were tired from each other. In April-may there were many cases associated with difficulties in the family, divorce. Now there are less. Personal space in the family find with communication: telling your wife that the hours did not touch you, and she does not touch. Agreement and compromise – the height of human evolution.
how Long shall appreciate personal spaceansto hard to say. It all depends on the person’s character. If you are an introvert, you prefer solitude and silence and isolation and being under one roof with all members of the family for you to torture, then you probably cherish the opportunity to be alone with him will be harder than ever.
do Not forget if we can communicate with less familiar people?
George Solodovnikov: I Think when there is the Internet, the communication supported. Communication skill continues unabated.
Another thing could be unusually tactile interaction: handshakes, hugs, some non-verbal messages. For many touch is important, especially among friends and partners. Someone can not live without a hug.
Think it’s wiser in terms of personal hygiene, but to hug and greet will be less. I don’t think it is necessary to consolidate social distance. We’re not eternal quarantine. But if someone is sick, we all already know exactly what to do.
George, do you think you need to be, as before, to remind people to wash their hands?
George Solodovnikov: the What and how and often it is necessary to wash hands we all are now long forgotten.
And the rules of social distance have helped people in establishing communication and personal boundaries. When I told friends and acquaintances that don’t say Hello, they are treated with understanding.
I Think skill building personal boundaries will be fixed. Sometimes awkward to tell people: “stop”, “this mine is yours” and so on. And during the period of quarantine contributed to the situation (“I greet”). This skill is a Keeper. It’s very good, because in our culture not really taken to protect their borders. What to do, the echoes of collectivism.
There is a theory that values of a generation define the global events that fell on the period of human maturation. The pandemic will play a role in this?
George Solodovnikov: Interestingly, while no virus, street, nature, travelling was not particularly interested in people. As soon as said, “stay home!”, all so drawn to walk. This is the psychology of exclusion: what is not forbidden, nobody cares. If you want to chain to something attention – forbid it.
I Think covid-generation will go on more walks, spend time in the fresh air. And again. Coronavirus – a disaster which brings together. All these actions in support of the doctors, the elderly, the remote lessons, the General atmosphere of Humanity against the virus is a powerful humanistic incentive. And it’s great.
whether we are more afraid of getting the flu or a cold?
George Solodovnikov: of Course, the attitude to disease. I don’t think is fear. It is where uncertainty. And about the virus we now know if not all, very a lot.
See how much information is there, how much research is conducted. It’s a great experience that will remain with humanity in the service a very long time.
Let’s summarize. So what advice would you give to people?
George Solodovnikov: in Summing up, I will say what I say after each crisis in Russia. Objectively evaluate our government and its enthusiasm for the support of citizens.
the Need to keep the distance of 1.5 meters is a great trainer for the development of skill building individual psychological boundaries and ability to negotiate.
And finally, always keep in mind, for the sake of what to survive the crisis. Whether it’s quarantine, the fall in oil prices or restructuring – all surmountable. Would be a target.
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