“You’re beautiful, your wife goes to work and you can sleep in and spend the money!” These and similar sayings must listen to Lorenz Wyler (46) from Zollikofen BE in his everyday life often. For twelve years the former organizational consultant, full-time dad. His wife makes a career in the public service and provides for the household income, while Wyler takes care of the education of their son (13), the household, a dog and two cats.
A rare model of the family, as the latest Figures on family and domestic work of the Federal office for statistics (BFS) to confirm. In Switzerland in 2013 was only around five per cent of the couple households is mainly the man for the house work and child-care responsibilities. In three-quarters of households with children under the age of 25, the house work is performed mainly by the wife.
household and education – is a matter for the woman?
The decision to quit his Job and stay at home, took Wyler, together with his wife after maternity leave. “We wanted to no foreign support for our son. Since my wife had the better career opportunities and higher income for himself, this change of role for us,” he says in an Interview with LOOK.
Regret Wyler has never. “I was never one of those men that make their manhood by the Job-dependent. As a man, I can do everything women can, and Vice – versa.” The decision to be a househusband, had nothing to do with the lack of Alternatives or the fear of work, so Wyler. These are the values he got from his parents taught, even if he grew up in a family with classic role distribution.
The number of working mothers in Switzerland has increased in the last eight years solid. About three-quarters of mums with children under four years of age are employed. Most of them work part-time. In the case of the men, only 14 per cent., which require for their small children to work part-time. The house work and child-rearing remains a majority of women’s rights, or is carried out through foreign support.
For Wyler, this is incomprehensible. “Man means for me to support my wife. Why not stand back of the man to allow his wife’s things, what classically makes the woman for the man?”
“women tell me what I should do better,”
Wyler’s environment but not always as he is. As Hausmann, he will not be taken from the working men are always serious, so the full-time dad. “I think I’m through my role as a househusband to a little bit of a stereotype to little male.” Also in the Muki-Turnen, he experienced exclusion. “The women reacted weird to me. As a man in the group, I was perceived differently.”
As a father, Wyler is taught again and again. “Women know better what’s missing in my son when he was younger and cried. They gave me tips on what I should do better,” he says. “As a father, I am reacting perhaps differently. If my child falls down, the way I run is not the same.” The led on the Playground, often to negative reactions from mothers. “One once said to me: It is good, if the mommy looks back to the child.”
a Closer father-child bond
to be Quite different to the environment of Stefan Söhle responded, as he decided to Hausmann. “I have yet to get any negative reactions. Most of them find it super that I stay for my children at home,” he says VIEWS.
The 50-Year-old from Küssnacht SZ is only recently Hausmann. In February of this year, he has exchanged with his wife, who is a Quality Manager in the pharmaceutical industry, the roles and takes care of the two sons (2 and 8). The decision was a process that had dragged on for about a year and a half long, so Söhle. “The idea, not to work and to bring home any money, for me, was a little unfamiliar at first. I had to find me in this role.” Meanwhile, Söhle, has most recently worked as a school assistant in a home for the disabled children, as Hausmann but feels very comfortable. “The bond between me and my kids have become closer,” he says. “I don’t have a job anymore, but my Job is to make the budget and to ensure that the most Important thing in my life: my children.”
“women need to claim their right”
the Swiss couple’s house, most of the fathers are full-time and mothers work part-time keep. The second most common family model is a full-time working father and a working mother.
“men have the options, but many do not take notice of them, because they are afraid of the loss of their social status,” is Wyler convinced. There is a need for fathers but also better opportunities in the work world. He even considers to go back to work, now that his son is older and he has more time. “The offer of advice is very clear for me, but on returning women oriented. For me, as a man, these measures do not work.”
This is a classic distribution of roles in the future mandatory Standard, you need to exercise women, according to Wyler, more pressure, and your right to claim. “But you must also be willing to assume the associated responsibility,” he adds. Because if the man stays at home, has to pay the woman for the entire family income. “Women need to be willing to bear the consequences – with all its sun and shade sides.”
A Edeka-spot represents fathers as incapable and incompetent. VIEWS has asked fathers whether you are experiencing discrimination in their role as father. We have summarised the opinions.